are some of the most common questions I get asked about what I
a coach? What sport?
most commonly linked with athletics, coaching isn’t confined
to a grass playing field or indoor court. I see myself as being similar
to a soccer coach. The soccer coach can’t get in the game with
the players but stands at the sidelines and helps each player excel in
playing the game. Similarly, I stand at the sidelines of people’s
lives and help them excel at being the best they can be. Coaching is
seen by many as the highest evolution of adult learning. Often it takes
talking with someone outside of the game of your life to help you see
the goalposts you may be missing.
you’re sort of my own personal consultant or trainer?
and no. When I’m consulting and training, I am expected
to provide answers to problems and training in techniques. As a
more interested in asking questions and helping you stir up answers from
your own wisdom
YOU! I am absolutely thrilled. Just talking it out made me
realize what I really want and nudged me to ‘go for it.’ If
that was coaching, then you are brilliant! Feel free to quote
me on your website, as well as include me in your success record.”
Ramirez-Schultz, Director of Special Events, Para Los Niños,
life experience. Consulting and training are useful and
I am hired to provide those. But with coaching, I often find my clients
already know the answers to their questions, they just need someone
to help them draw it out.
you a therapist or counselor?
No. Therapists and counselors often focus on the past. They are
trained to seek things in your past that are causing current dysfunction.
are often gifted at helping you heal past hurts or deal with current
weaknesses. This is a very important service and one that I am not trained
in. If I feel you would benefit from therapy or counseling, I am com
to referring you to the best professionals I know. Mine is more of
a “present-future” focus.
I’m interested in helping you build on your strengths and achievements
to help you leverage your growth and development.
you’re pretty similar to a mentor?
the term mentor is used synonymously with coaching. But more often
than not, mentoring is career focused and is interested
a replica of the mentor in the mentee. Sort of a “mini-me” approach.
I believe you are capable as you are. Rather than trying to create you
into a coffee loving, bowtie wearing clone, I want to help you flourish
at being your own idiosyncratic self.
So what is a coaching?
Dave Buck, one of the coaching pioneers, offers
one of the best definitions I’ve heard. He says, “Coaching
is: inspiring an individual or team to produce a desired result through
expanding awareness and designing environments.”
there people that wouldn’t benefit from coaching?
answer this, I like the quote the folks at Franklin Covey Coaching
introduced to me from Jacki Summers in “Gimme a C-O-A-C-H” in
Salon Today, May 2002:
you are looking for any of the following, you probably should
not call a coach:
coaches are committed to help you explore your strengths, shore
up your weaknesses, establish your goals, and support you in
your growth, all in an objective and non-judgmental way.”
to fight your battles;
- someone to do your dirty work;
- someone to validate your bad habits;
- someone to console you because your mother clearly favors your sister.